Showing posts with label parental alienation. Show all posts
Showing posts with label parental alienation. Show all posts

Monday, March 5, 2018

FREE FOR THE ASKING

My mom's book just published on Audible!! For a FREE listen of entire book in exchange for an honest review comment asking for a code to be sent to your email.   (There are a limited number) This book is largely about parental alienation after divorce says mom... HOWEVER... I believe since my diary is shared after each chapter I am the real star of this book. Listen for yourself!! Thanks furrrr friends

Don't forget to ask for the code to get it FREE HERE!

Hey.  Spring is coming this month!  Are you readyyyyyyy????

I am.


Thursday, March 1, 2018

Two Things

The audiobook is now available through Audible!!  So excited!  Sheree Wichard did a wonderful job at bringing this book to life.  Try Audible for one month FREE and listen to Gracie's Diary a Memoir
HERE!!


ALSO > You can read my new book "LET'S BE FRIENDS" to your children or grandchildren (ages 4-10) Kindle version FREE with kindle unlimited membership HERE!!


What a great time to be an author!!!!

Even if you are not famous or well-known -   It's just plain fun!

Thanks for stopping by...

Gracie says, Good morning and Good night ....


Tuesday, November 20, 2012

Guess what Mr. UPS Brought Yesterday?




I can only say one thing about the above picture.  Bobbi...  why didn't you do something with that hair???  lol

But I was too excited to even care about the hair.

And then...

My very first book review on Amazon....

5.0 out of 5 stars A Must Read November 19, 2012
By Deb
Format:Kindle Edition|Amazon Verified Purchase
I read "Gracie's Diary: A Memoir" over the weekend and I strongly recommend this non fiction book to readers. I laughed, I cried and I shook my head in amazement. I am usually disappointed with court hearings and their rulings...too many "good" people are most likely the recipients of a "poor decision" of a judge..And this book solidified my opinion. If you love children, dogs and adults...you really need to purchase this book....All of the characters in this book will steal your heart...




Don't forget!  Leave a comment here to be eligible for the drawing that will take place on Thanksgiving Day for a free copy of the book.

Dear Diary,

I hope this book of Mom's is a flop.  I am not into autographs..  not at all.   I just want to eat cookies and sleep.  That's all.  Gracie.


Friday, November 16, 2012

Gracie's Diary is PUBLISHED! Woo Hoo!!

What do you do when life's challenges are more than you can possibly deal with?

What do you do when your past mistakes come back to haunt you and you're only recourse is to face your demons... head on?

What do you do when the youth you so richly embraced not that long ago has left you and all that remains are wrinkles, larger-than-life hips, and back to back hot flashes?

What do you do when your nest is empty and your need to nurture goes to the DOGS (literally)?

You write it all down, then call it a book!

Oh, my dear friends..  I have been in writers prison for the past six years and NOW, FINALLY, I AM PUBLISHED!!

This is a humbling experience for me.  I have never been one to want to share my life drama with the world.  But every time I tried to walk away from this project, God kept pulling me back.   The story needed to be told.

I don't consider myself an author.  But Amazon says I am... so I guess I'll just go with it.

Oh, and by the way...  I owe you a big thanks for being here and cheering me on.  Some say it's horrible how relationships have gone cyber, taking away from face to face friendships.  My take on that is different.  Blogging comes from the heart.  There are a group of you that I feel like I know better than I do some of my own physically present friends.  Daily...  you enrich my life, teach me a thing or two, give me something to think about, and make me laugh.  You are my **heart** friends.
You will find my book here on Amazon but don't buy it just yet.  I'm going to give away 5 books so if you leave a comment on this post, I will do a drawing on Thanksgiving Day and hopefully you will be one of the five! 

There are a lot of loose ends...  so I will need to go and take care of them now.  Thanks again for your friendships!  I hope to be back to normal blogging soon. 

Oh, and for those of you who will be interested...  a Kindle edition will be up soon as well along with a few other venues. 

Sunday, November 11, 2012

Book Trailer

I have been working on my book trailer.

Ugh!

I am so tired of this book.  Really!

So anyway... I hope this works okay....

This is what I have so far.   Keep in mind, in the book Gary's daughter's name has been changed to Adele.  I just felt that was the right thing to do.

I hope this link  Gracie's Diary  works.  What do you think?





Wednesday, October 24, 2012

Cover to Cover

Hi folks!  I may be missing for a few weeks here...  

You see...

Yesterday I received my book back for review - to read and make any changes.  My first round of author galley's.  I have 14 days but I'd like to get it done sooner.  

And now.  

Since you are my friends and have stuck with me through all of my silliness and (sometimes) l-o-n-g mundane posts....  

I share with you the cover of my book:  


AND NOW....  OFF TO WORK!

I hope everyone is having a great week!


Thursday, August 9, 2012

BANKRUPT and BUSY!!


my summer.  by bobbi phillip.

spring/summer started kindly.   reuniting gary with his estranged daughter was a perfect way to begin.  shortly after, however, during her stay with us... we found she was a poser. she left. we survived. life goes on.

summer.  hot and stormy.  very busy.  

hub. filed 4 bankruptcy on the cards he used to try to save his daughter via lawyers, basement psychologist 4 daughter, and enormous child support. now it's finished.  glad that's over with.  he has had impeccable credit all his life.  how sad, what has happened. 

which brings me to my book.  sigh.  it is done being edited, and gary and i are both going over it again, then it will be sent for publication.   it's keeping us very busy. 

july turned out to be the best month 'business-wise' that we have had so far at 'all about hearing'.  wow!  word is getting out.

gary's mom will be up next week to stay in our guest apartment for a week.  looking forward to that.

there is a reason i save my vacation time for summers end.  
1. it's cooler.  2.  it gives me something to look forward to :-)  

in a few weeks it will be vacation at the beach with the kids and the grandkids.  i'm so excited!

then a few weeks after that it is hub's (my stepdaughter) wedding on the beach.  another vacation for us where we celebrate our 10th wedding anniversary.  yay!

i'm a weight watchers drop out.  

honestly, i tried so hard and i  was going nowhere.  eating better makes me feel good though.  and i am still watching and refuse to be down....  


oh, and did i mention i'm going to be a grammy again?  today i found out it will be a boy.   jake will have a baby brother come january.  excited!


MY COOKIE.  BY GRACIE PHILLIP

I WAS GIVEN A COOKIE,
DIDN'T KNOW WHAT TO DO.
SO I HID IT UNDER A RUG,
AWAY FROM YOU.

WHEN THAT DIDN'T WORK,
I BURIED IT UNDER THE CHAIR.
BUT YOU SOON FOUND IT,
SO I THOUGHT, 'NOW, WHERE'?

I DUG AND I NUDGED,
WITH MY PAWS AND MY NOSE.
I HEARD YOU YELL "GRACIE!"
AND THEN... I FROZE.

"DON'T BURY THAT COOKIE!"
YOU SAID, MAKING A SCENE.
THAT'S WHEN I REALIZED,
THE NAG MOM IS QUITE MEAN!

SO THIS LEAVES ME TO SULK,
AND WONDER... IN DESPAIR.
WHERE CAN I HIDE MY COOKIE?
WHERE?  OH WHERE?   OH WHERE?

Friday, June 8, 2012

She's Gone

Remember my post from a few weeks ago, when Gary was reunited with his estranged daughter after one of the worst cases of parental alienation kept them apart for 6 years?


You might remember that 19 year old Athena was spending the summer with us?

Well...  let's see.  
She missed a lot in the past 6 years so there was 
some catching up to do.


The first week went well, 
and she met new family members.


I believe Rissi felt she knew Athena already from all of the old videos and pictures Pop-pop showed her.


They really hit it off.  


And father and daughter began to get to know 
one another again...  


But the past 6 years and the damage that was done somehow found it's way to the surface...  and we were forced to face some demons that had not yet been dealt with.


Then a change took place.  First she bleached her hair out.  Then she colored it bright pink.  The next morning she left a note... and she was gone.


She seemed to be in constant contact with her mom...  so I'm assuming that's where she went...  back home.  


Gary was devastated.  
He had anticipated an entire summer of making up
 for lost time.


And watching their garden grow...




Friday, June 10, 2011

Graduation





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While so many good and positive things are happening for us right now, I have to pause today to remember someone who was once very dear in heart and is no longer with us.

Today Athena graduates from high school.


Athena was Gary's daughter (my stepdaughter) and for those of you who don't know - she was bribed, hypnotized and manipulated starting at age 13.  Reason:  To remove father from her life.


Mission:  Accomplished.


Along with the removal of her father though, was a removal of her self - and she became someone different.  The Athena we knew had disappeared.


How sad it must be to wear a cap and gown and hold your hand out for your diploma on one of the most important days of your life, knowing that the one person who loved and believed in you more than anyone 
else in this world - is absent.


But then again...  she probably doesn't even remember.



Monday, January 31, 2011

Dr. Phil

Guess who called our house the other night?


Good ol' Dr Phil.  Well, it wasn't actually him that called... but an assistant producer.  Once again, they wanted Gary to do a show on Parental Alienation.  This is the 4th time they've called us in the past few years.  

 Gary said "OF COURSE I WILL!"

But the problem is, they won't do a show without both the mother and father of the alienated child.  Gary's X refuses to go on.  Why would she?  Guilty people don't want to be exposed.  His daughter was drugged, brainwashed, bribed, and hypnotized and finally she turned against her father.  I used to be angry about it, but I'm not so much any more.  I'm mostly sad.  

And so...  the show once again will not happen.  

For those of you who don't know what I'm talking about, Gary's daughter was turned against him in '06 in one of the cruelest, most horrible cases of parental alienation I've yet to find.   I didn't even know what parental alienation was!  When I googled some of the things that were going on, that's when I discovered what was happening.  

Jealousy is terrible thing.  I'm sorry that the X felt threatened.  We did not mean for her to feel that way. We only wanted Athena to feel loved.

Some memories.  The last few pictures were of the last time we ever saw Athena. After that visit, she was not to return.


 She is now an adult.
















Friday, December 10, 2010

Divorce is Hard On Children

My weeks vacation time is almost over.  So what have I been doing with my time off, you say?
Well...  it started off with my bad back.  I was in agony for the first couple of days so that doesn't even count.

My main purpose for this week off was to work on my memoir and get it close to being finished.  Every day I lounged around with no makeup on  and and still in my pj's at noon, it was heavenly.



For those of you who don't know, my hubby Gary has been a victim of parental alienation and was drug through the most horrible four years worth of hell imaginable....  And I have been working on a book for almost that long.

Divorce is hard on children, but when one goes through what his daughter Athena went through - this is child abuse.    My  book is about divorce and it's sting on our children.  It's about mistakes made and lessons learned.  The Title: Gracie's Diary, A Memoir.  It is 76,000 + words.

My book will be published.  It may not be a best seller,  but it's the only thing I have to offer my hubby that even comes close to healing some of the hurt.  I've worked on it for the past 3+ years because after watching what was going on and not being able to help,  I needed to have some kind of an outlet.

 Through writing this book, I've discovered why divorce is wrong (in most cases)... including my own.    This book tells it like it is.

Enjoy a random excerpt:


Chapter Nine

How Much Is That Going to Cost?

     Gracie had been a member of our family for over six months and still didn’t get the house-training thing.  When she had to go, she mostly did it on the floor.  Knowing it was something that caused me to go into a soft rage, she started doing it secretly.  Random yellow spots were showing up mysteriously on the white carpet under the coffee table and behind the chairs in corners.  Every time we discovered a new stain Gary reminded me of the cost of the carpet.  
      The Money Pit with Tom Hanks and Shelley Long was one of my favorite comedies of all time.  But what I wasn’t finding amusing was the connection we were starting to make with that movie, as we began to fix what was broken in our new bargain home. 
     One of Gary’s biggest peeves was the mindless electrical wiring throughout the house and into the basement, apparently one of those West Virginia specials.  The kitchen switches turned the basement lights on and the living room switch turned the kitchen light on. After all this time we weren’t quite sure what the basement switches were for.  It was a real mess, and would have to be rewired.  Gary’s words were sounding like a broken record.   “I wonder how much all this is going to cost…”
      I tossed my right foot over the gate that separated the kitchen and living room, careful not to spill my hot tea, and down I went. You’d think Gracie would be used to us falling all over the place, but away she ran cowering into her cage in the far side of the kitchen.
     “Ouch!”  I muttered.  Trying to keep from crying, and pulling myself up off the floor, I bit my lip and said softly, “Darn gate.”  After locking Gracie in her cage I started to clean up the shattered glass and tea that had made its way throughout two thirds of the kitchen and part of the living room.  Gary walked out from the bedroom slowly with his hands in his pockets.
    “Are you okay?” he asked.
    “I’m fine.” 
    “You need to be more careful.”
    “Whatever.”
     Both of us were collecting bruises.   From the made-for-midgets carport to the makeshift gate that kept Gracie from destroying the house, our home had become a danger zone. 
     Early March winds lashed across the West Virginia hills causing spotted electrical outages around town. We were lucky that ours stayed on, but not so lucky when green shingles blew off the roof, scattering across the front yard, and rain was in the not too distant forecast.
     It seemed that no one was excited to tackle work in this wild and wonderful state, particularly in our location.  Whatever the case, good help was hard to find.  Gary made a few phone calls, then headed for the roof to put up a temporary covering before the bad weather hit.  He spent most of the night and early morning hours working through the howling winds and fierce raindrops, and when he finished, a blue tarp promised temporary safety from the nasty weather.  After four failed attempts at getting a roofer in, we were able to schedule one for three weeks.  We hoped the tarp would hold until then.   
     We had barely enough time to ask “What next?” when the heavy rains came and washed mounds of water and dirt down the hill and onto our cement porch. 


Monday, November 1, 2010

Mondays Mug: She Loved Her Father So



Mondays Mug



This mug was given to Hubby
from his daughter Athena for Father's Day.
Athena, at age ten would cry 
because her mom wouldn't 
let her spend more time with her dad.  

She then would cry when it was time for
her to go home because 
she wanted to live with us. 


This is the other side of the mug.

  She loved her father so...


But the X found a psychologist who works out of the basement of his home, does not have a PHD, and oh, the things this man was allowed to do to this child!!!


There are many good memories.  

At age 13, we saw her for the last time.  
She was bribed, hypnotized,
put on some very strong drugs, and brainwashed. 
I have all the court papers and emails
that prove all these things.

 She now believes her father
 abused her from age 3 to 13. 

 She hates him. 

What happens is, along with good memories,
false memories are planted
 and the past gets distorted. 
 Before her father was targeted, 
his father and son were targeted. 
 When that wasn't enough to 
remove him from her life,
 they chose to target her father. 

 For those not involved in
 something like this,
they might not have a clue
 as to how this could happen. 
 Aren't the courts fair? 
Doesn't proof mean anything? 
Isn't the best interest of the child
 what matters most?

The answer is no to all of the above.

It is a money train, 
and all involved get a piece of the pie. 
I watched it happen.  
It was the worse form of child abuse I've ever seen...
 happening on the inside... pulling a heart of
love and admiration from a child 
and planting a heart of
resentment, hatred and anger in it's place. 

Hubby continues to send child support,
 but never sees her.  
He also pays for a Christian school.  
She just turned 18 last month, 
but has another year to go to school.

Tell me what you think of this video 
she just put on you tube a few days ago. 

 Be prepared though, it's foul... 

Keep in mind, hubby has no input in her life.  
He's been forced out of her life since age 13. 

I can still hear him praying with her
 at bedtime when she'd be with us. 

He continues to pray for her.  



Jealousy is an awful thing,
and for someone to do what was done to
this father and daughter
  is an abomination.   

Hubby met with Athena's Christian School principal when she was 13,
 and shared with them some of the stuff he was finding online...  
 He was reaching out for someone to help her.  

The X told Athena:  
"What kind of a father would do such a thing...
go to their daughter's school like that and do this?"  

A father who cares.  

God help this kid, who is now a disturbed adult
because of what has been done to her.



Monday, September 20, 2010

For This We Pay Big Bucks?

 

Since we married in 2002, Gary and I have put aside THIS WEEK as our time together.  Alone.  No worries. No kids. No dogs. No family or friends.  No evil ex's or disgruntled customers.   No laundry or dishes.  No conferences or meetings.  No deadlines or phone calls.  
 Just Amish strangers in Ohio, Dorothy and Toto in Indiana, the sun setting on Lake Michigan, countless things to do, and an entire seven days with not a care in the world. 












Unfortunatly this year has not been profitable. 

 In addition to sales being way down, Gary's ex keeps wanting more and more money for their soon-to-be 18 year old daughter's child support + psychology bills + private Christian school tuition .... 

 This whole child custody/support thing has made Gary pretty sick with his Crohn's and the family courts refuse to acknowledge that he's no longer able to work full time. 

The X keeps taking him back to court for more and more money, and he now owes tens of thousands of dollars on charge cards, trying to keep his obligation up to date. 

 I seriously think the X enjoys seeing us struggle. 

 The alienated, hateful child will be 18 this week, but still has a year of Christian school left and that equals an average of $700 a month child support for us to pay. 

 Don't get me wrong.  Every parent should pay for the support of their children...  But this is a unique and unfair case.  I've researched the family court messes, and I've yet to see one as inhumane and crooked as what this one has been.   Gary hasn't been allowed to see his daughter for four years now.  He's taken back to court every few months for increases in his support though.  *shake's head*   


And so... we've broken the yearly tradition of finding peace in a loud and busy world.  Maybe next year.   

Click on the Title- link and find the daughter's latest youtube video, added yesterday. 
  This bothers me for some reason.

Ok.  I'm done.  Just had to vent.  Thanks for listening.



Tuesday, August 3, 2010

Parental alienation is Child Abuse

Have I ever told you about my husband Gary?  I met him online,  ten-years in February.

It wasn't his good looks that won my heart at first.... . 






Nor was it that he sent me flowers  'just because'.



The truth is, I fell in love with him the day I met his children for the first time.  We met them at the Cracker Barrel for dinner.

see picture-books on table. 


Athena was happy to see her dad and fell into his arms, hugging him tightly. “Did you bring your picture books with you?” he asked. She nodded and pulled out a small photo album from a box full of others. She handed it to me and while everyone else ordered dinner I turned the pages of a year’s worth of memories, painstakingly put together by her dad; time spent together; photos with captions, movie tickets and other miscellaneous memorabilia. If he’d been trying to sell himself to me he may as well have slapped a sold sign in the middle of his forehead at that moment because it was then that I began to fall in love with this unique and wonderful man.

Throughout dinner Athena clung to him, holding his arm close to her small face and watching him in admiration, and when the time came to leave she wiped away tears and squeezed him like she’d never let him go. His older kids, Stacy and Jason, hugged us and we said goodbye.















Forward - --  Almost ten years. 

Parental Alienation.

Not many know about this form of child abuse. If it is not in you're back yard you may not even know it exists.

 My last memory of Athena is of her crying  and asking her father if she could come and live with us.  That was four years ago.  She was drugged, brainwashed, bribed and hypnotised in an effort to remove her father from her life and her heart.  

She's no longer in our lives.