Tuesday, May 15, 2012


I had always feared that Gary would die without getting to see his youngest daughter again.

Those of you who follow my blog know about the past 6 years of anguish we've been through with the courts and the parental alienation that took place... 

AND the reason there is a book that is being edited and will be published later this year, 'Gracie's Diary'.  

Gary's birthday was on May 1.  

Every year, I have the same dilemma.  What to get a man who has been jaded from years worth of hurt?  

Then God gave me a boldness that I never thought I'd have, and I wrote to Athena and asked her if she'd participate in a 'surprise, belated birthday dinner' for her Dad.

She said yes.  

It had been 6 years.

It was emotional.   A little awkward.  

A real blessing.

After dinner, we met at the cemetery where 
Gary's dad was buried after he had died suddenly, 6 years earlier to the day.

Then we went to the house where Gary and his children lived when they were younger.  The nice gentleman who owned the house actually let us all go through...  

...And there, Gary and his children reminisced.  

It was the beginning of a healing.  

The aftermath of a divorce can be difficult for kids.  Often they're the last ones to be considered.    

Sometimes prayer is the only hope.

Thank you Lord, for hope.

To the left, Vinny (Gary's future son-in-law, Stacy his daughter, Athena, me, Jason Gary's son, Kirsten Jason's girlfriend, and of course... Gary.

Gary and Athena

Athena stands in front of what used to be her bedroom when she was a little girl, pre-divorce. 

Dear Diary,

The Nag Mom wonders why no slippers were brought to the middle of the floor this time when she left.  Well, woman...  maybe I don't miss you and dad anymore.  Maybe when you leave it gives me a chance to unwind, party, do what I want without hearing 'Gracie, what is your problem!'  Maybe I'm getting used to living alone.  It seems the nag Mom needs me more than I need her.  Gracie.


  1. It sure was super dooper wonderful fur you to do dis fur Gary! Bet he was da happiest hooman on Earth! Now him owes you...big! BWHahahahah

    Gracie....me be over next time you is left alone.....PAWTY TIME!!!

  2. what a wonderful gift and a wonderful family, lots of good healing going on here, beautiful kids!

  3. Athena is SO cute!!! :) And Poor Gracie. Being left alone all the time, I would be put out too. ;-)

  4. Thank you, Lord, for answered prayers!

  5. Oh what a wonderful story with a happy ending. Great gift for Gary;). Have a blessed day dear Bobbi!!! Hugs and smiles;)

  6. Bobbi, this is wonderful!!! And I am just in tears and crying right now...this has got to be his best birthday ever!!

  7. Praise the Lord for answered prayer! May the healing continue, with Him showing the way for all!

  8. So happy for all of you! Wishes for many more happy times shared together.

  9. I do remember you writing about Athena; I am so thankful that she came to Gary's get together so to speak and although awkward, at least she came. Let's hope and pray the doors that were opened will stay opened and they can make some type of new relationship in the days/months/years ahead.

    Poor Gracie! What are we going to do about her and her always having to be the center of attention :)


  10. What a wonderful reunion!
    Athena is beautiful

  11. What a wonderful birthday blessing for Gary! Athena is a real doll. And Gracie will never quit needing her mommy & daddy. ;-)

  12. WONDERFUL heartwarming story. This had a happy ending. Also a new beginning for your husband and his children. Particularly him and Athena. that is a lovely name by the way. She's a beautiful young woman. I'm glad this special man of yours had such a GREAT birthday, Bobbie. In part thanks to you. "GRACIE. You are one SMART doggie. You momma does NEED you. And you NEED her. Yes you do. ADMIT it. But having some INDEPENDENCE and FUN, while she's away, is sweet, indeed. TAKE CARE.


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