Tuesday, February 3, 2015

Selfless

On Friday, January 30, my brother Jimmy lost his battle to cancer.  

Well, it wasn't really a battle.  He did not choose to fight.  

He was like that.  The only fight he ever had in him was when he was a much younger spit-fire or when he served in the VietNam War as a Marine.    

He was a good guy and I will miss him dearly.  But this post is not about him.  That will be later.  

This post is about selflessness.  Doing something for someone else and not expecting anything in return.  Doing what your heart tells you to do...  Going out of your way for someone.  

I don't often talk about my husbands selflessness...  mainly because he rants and raves and complains a lot and that causes  me to not want to talk about all the good stuff. 
*insert chuckle here*

But

I do want to take this time to thank you Gary for the past several months of love and compassion.  For being there for me when I needed you and being somewhere else when I needed to be alone.  For understanding.  
For the chocolate you bought me this past week when I was sick with the flu and for the hot chicken noodle soup you brought home to me.   

But even more importantly than that:  

My two youngest kids had not been able to see their Uncle Jim and had no way of getting there (Hanover, PA) to see him.  
You volunteered.  
Now, this drive is not so easy for you with your own physical problems, but you did not complain.   You were glad to see them visit with their uncle one last time.  

Selflessness


That day will live in their hearts and mine forever.  We had a great visit.  And it would be the last time any of us would see him again.    

This post goes out to you, my husband, my best friend, the one I admire and adore.  I have seen your tears too, and I know you loved Jimmy.  But you stood in the shadows, helping out when you could.  You were so good to him and he always appreciated your gift of friendship.   Jimmy never once hung up the phone without asking how is Gary and tell him 'hey'.

Jimmy will be greatly missed,  but before this day went any further I wanted to thank you Gary for your part in my life.  You do so much,  and often it may seem that it goes unnoticed.  It does not.  I love and appreciate you.  


   

10 comments:

betty said...

I am so sorry for the loss of your brother, Bobbi. What a wonderful testimony of selflessness and love you shared with us about Gary and how he was there for you/family over the past few months! I am thinking you would do the same if the situation was reverse.

Again, my condolescences to your family.

betty

preachur99 said...

Thank you Bobbi for your kind words. It was hard to watch you go through the loss of Jimmy. You and him were really close and somewhat alike, both have a giving heart which I always loved about you. Love you always...Gary

Jim said...

So sorry for your loss Bobbi.
But also so happy you have someone close to you that is really there for you. The love you and Gary have for each other has always been evident and you are both fortunate to have each other.

Sweet Tea said...

The love of a good man is such a blessing.
I know your heart is broken, Bobbi.
I have no advice nor right words.
I'm so sorry for your loss and your pain.

Ginny said...

Bobbi, I am so sorry. And your story has me in tears now. You are such a wonderfully emotive writer. We are so blessed to have such wonderful guys. Gary is such a sweetheart, and I am so glad you fund each other. AND, give him a BIG hug for me!

TARYTERRE said...

I am so sorry to hear of your brother's passing. You have my deepest sympathy. Let the memories sustain you through this difficult time. Your husband stepped up to the plate when you needed him most. He's a good guy, for sure.

Murray's Mouth said...

Very beautiful post and I'm sorry for your loss.

Tweedles -- that's me said...

We are so sorry this happened to your brother..
Such a beautiful heartfelt post
love
tweedles

Theresa said...

I am so sorry Bobbie to hear that you lost your Brother! I know that Heaven welcomed him in and there is no suffering there!

Thank you to Gary for being there for you and your family! What a sweet fella he is!

Sending you a big 'ole HUG this morning and SWEET prayers!

Inger said...

Dear Bobbi, anyone who has read your book knows of your love for your husband and the kind of man he is. Still, this was a beautiful tribute, both to him and to your brother. I am so sorry for your loss. Sending hugs and Samson kisses to you.